meh kite debat psl jodoh..
act saje je aku nak tgk komen korang..
btul ke Jodoh tuh di tgn Tuhan..??
camner yg dikatakan Tuhan tentukan..
or..kite kene cr atau pun x..?
Full Version: Jodoh..
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| Some questions/thoughts on my mind: 1) Hypothetically speaking. A loving couple has been together for many many years. They were extremely close with each other's family, trust each other with all their heart and one day they decided to settle down. Get married. Tie the knot. But the marriage turned out to be a complete disaster. They tried everything they could to save it, but a few years later, they decided to go their separate ways. What does that mean? "Jodoh mereka tidak panjang?", even though they work really hard for it? They are simply not meant for each other? 2) Perhaps the actual definition for "Jodoh tidak panjang" is when a husband or a wife passed away early in the marriage, much to the the dismay that they're like the "perfect couple" you'll ever know? That makes more sense right? They are so right for each other, but Death is also set from Azali. What if your spouse passed away, you managed to move on and get married for the second time and live happily ever after with your new life partner. Does that mean you're lucky to find 2 jodohs in your lifetime? 3) To find the right (not perfect) wife or husband, one should practise consistent doa' + effort/usaha + tawakkal. We're not gonna find anyone by just waiting in the house, hoping and hoping every single day that one fine day, Mr./Mrs. Right will come knocking through front door. It doesn't work that way. A friend mentioned to me years ago, arranged marriage might work better than the conventional ones because both party are willing to make the marriage work. Both party agreed and willingly participate in the arranged marriage, having the preconception that they must put their utmost effort the make the marriage last. But what if the marriage still fails? I know such couple who ended up that way. It's such a pity because I know both the husband and wife wanted it to work so bad, but yet. 4) Muslim men are allowed (I want to use the word "entitled" but it's too strong) to have 4 wives. Which one is his jodoh? The first one? Because that's his first love? What about the second one? Third one? Fourth one? Which one then? All of them? |
apa kate korang..???
aku tak dapat nak komen... sebab... aku tak suke bakal jodoh aku.. 
cam tau je jodoh aku sape kan..
cam tau je jodoh aku sape kan..
bagi aku.. mmg la Tuhan dah tentukan jodoh.. in fact.. semua bende mmg Tuhan dah tau dah.. tp tu bukan bermakna kita takde efek kpd sape bakal jodoh kita.. 
apa makna 'xder efek' tu..??
maksudnye.. bukannye kita langsung tak dpt tentukan sape jodoh kita..
| QUOTE (ZeMMs @ Nov 3 2006, 03:34 AM) |
| maksudnye.. bukannye kita langsung tak dpt tentukan sape jodoh kita.. |
oo..ye la..kite merancang tuhan tentukan..btul x..??
aku tertarik ngn komen dak ney..
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| It is true that jodoh dan pertemuan is in Allah’s hands. It’s just either you want to believe it or not. The irony in this case is that masa awal2 bercinta dulu, you were so sure that that girl is the one, you didn’t even care to pray to Allah to ask Him whether she is or is not the one. Then, finally when you got married, the marriage sucks, you get divorce, and start asking questions like “Is it true jodoh tu taqdir? Then why is mine so shortlived?” Just as jodoh is in the hands of the Almighty, the rest of our lives are too. But our problem is that we take some we leave the others. For instance in Islam, there’s a hadith which said something like if you love a girl, marry her. Therefore you could see that loving or being interested in someone is something purposeful.. bukan something you do just for fun. But people today do it for fun. And another which says that if you don’t have enough money to get married then you should fast meaning you should restrain your desires, which people don’t. Contohnye ade pasangan yang ter-commit perbuatan tidak baik dan akhirnya berkahwin, I’m more than convinced that it was all written in the book that they were going to get married, when and where. It’s just that if they followed the quranic guidance, the not-meant-to-be illegal act wouldn’t have to be there in their record, and the child would still be borned. If only the boy was courageous enough to tell the girl that he loved her and wanted to marry her and met her parents and told them about it in the beginning and waited patiently until the right day came when they were being ijabkabul and at that time they were halal for each other, lots of unnecessary troubles could have been avoided. Yang kawin cerai kawin cerai banyak2 kali tuh, maybe we should ask why in the first place did he get married. Kalau just because he fall in love with the girl, then it is no surprise that die memang akan kawin cerai 55 kali. Every time kawin, see someone better looking, cerai and kawin again.. Memang bukan jodoh la namanye tuh since you sapu each and every girl you see. Jodoh when you know why you want to get married, when you ask for Allah’s guidance when making a decision before and after. So Mr. Judd, jodoh memang di tangan tuhan, if you fall in love with a girl, gi masuk meminang terus, and kenal time bertunang but not to the extent utk pergi berdating di tempat2 gelap..(or tempat cerah for that matter) :> and you will see whether she’s the one for you n during the period, mintak doa bebanyak and insyaAllah, He will guide you.. if finally you got married, then dapat 5 anak and suddenly rase tak serasi.. then this is also within Allah’s will.. as long as from the start to the end, everything was done in the right (Allah’s) way. Wallahua’m.. |
ahakss..so ke-blur-an aku pasal jodoh nih jd clear la gaks. bagus la pendapat dia. sbb aku kalo pasal jodoh nih mmg otomatik jd blur. tak tau nak komen pe. 
boleh pakai gak la reasoning dia tu...
| QUOTE (ZeMMs @ Nov 3 2006, 04:12 PM) |
| boleh pakai gak la reasoning dia tu... |
bagi aku la.. kite kene usaha kalau kite dah suke sorang tuh.. usaha tangga kejayaan...
pas usaha baru tawakal.. baru kite tengok sape jodoh kite... kalau bersamanye.. alhamdulillah... kalau ngan orang lain.. takde jodoh le kite ngan die..... 
lagi satu, biarlah pilih orang yang benar² boleh terima kita seadanya... jangan terlalu memilih sangat.. mcm bagus² je korang kan
huhuhhu... bepinar aku bace posting yang blue post tu.. ehhehe.. dah la tulisan kecik nih..
Ermm.. mmg bole pakai la ape yang dia cakap tu... sedih la jugak bile bace.. eh, nape aku sedih...
Ermm.. mmg bole pakai la ape yang dia cakap tu... sedih la jugak bile bace.. eh, nape aku sedih...
sape2 pun kat dunia nie..(lelaki ngan pompuan) mesti nakkan pasangan yang terbaik dalam hidup mereka. Jodoh ditentukan olehNya..itu mmg x boleh dipertikaikan sebab setiap pertemuan kita dengan pasangan kita telah ditentukan olehNya.. kita mencari dan memilih jodoh kita pun ditentukan olehNya.. dalam setiap perhubungan yang terjalin tu pulak banyak lah dugaan..ada yang kekal dan ada yang tak kekal.. kalau kekal tu alhamdulillah la.. jodoh kalau kita mencari tapi tidak dengan keizinanNya dan ketentuanNya..pun x jadik jugak.. so, rasanya mmg betul jodoh tu ditangan Tuhan..kita manusia merancang saje.. -wallahualam-
kita mencari dan memilih jodoh kita pun ditentukan olehNya.. dalam setiap perhubungan yang terjalin tu pulak banyak lah dugaan..ada yang kekal dan ada yang tak kekal.. kalau kekal tu alhamdulillah la.. jodoh kalau kita mencari tapi tidak dengan keizinanNya dan ketentuanNya..pun x jadik jugak.. so, rasanya mmg betul jodoh tu ditangan Tuhan..kita manusia merancang saje.. -wallahualam-
sbnrnya kan sumtimes kite x perasan yg kite dah bertemu ngn jodoh kite..slalunya jodoh tuh dekat jerq ngn kite..x mungkin kite akan kawen ngn org yg kite x pernah jumpa..
lagipon klu korang perasan..sbnrnya kite dah leh agak sape bakal wife.hsband kite..slalunye akan ader SIGN..
camner nak detect SIGN tuh..to be cont...
lagipon klu korang perasan..sbnrnya kite dah leh agak sape bakal wife.hsband kite..slalunye akan ader SIGN..
camner nak detect SIGN tuh..to be cont...
| QUOTE (blue_april @ Nov 5 2006, 01:09 AM) |
| x mungkin kite akan kawen ngn org yg kite x pernah jumpa.. |
boleh blue. kalo mak ayah yg uruskan mende2 nih.
ntah naper, cam x brp rajin jek aku nk bace mende2 camnih. hehe...
Jodoh dah ditentukan Tuhan..
Lia dah ditetapkan untuk bersama aku soang jek..
Lia dah ditetapkan untuk bersama aku soang jek..
| QUOTE (blue_april @ Nov 5 2006, 01:09 AM) |
| sbnrnya kan sumtimes kite x perasan yg kite dah bertemu ngn jodoh kite..slalunya jodoh tuh dekat jerq ngn kite..x mungkin kite akan kawen ngn org yg kite x pernah jumpa.. lagipon klu korang perasan..sbnrnya kite dah leh agak sape bakal wife.hsband kite..slalunye akan ader SIGN.. camner nak detect SIGN tuh..to be cont... |
ape lagi sambungannya tu blue
a'a blue..letak..letak...
blue..kata to be cont. Manenyer cik kak?
eh,yela..mna sambungan nyer..? 
aku pun interested nk tau jgk nih..
ehehe...
aku pun interested nk tau jgk nih..
ehehe...
| QUOTE (girlz @ Nov 12 2006, 10:49 AM) |
| eh,yela..mna sambungan nyer..? aku pun interested nk tau jgk nih.. ehehe... |
hehehe..begitu berminat nmpknya girlz. tau la tgh angau..
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